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Censor me, I don’t know better

Censorship is by simple definition, the act of filtering information handed out to the public for a number of reasons, this being copyright infringement, adult content or simple protocol. Censorship is present everywhere and in every situation of our daily lives, we even censor ourselves and we call this being polite.

In second life you can be censored through various means, but it being a social platform built on text / voice communication, censoring someone can be complex. Most of the time it occurs in groups, which strive to keep SPAM notices to a minimum, or the public notices under a very specific topic; when you join a group -in theory- it comes with a very clear set of rules posted somewhere for everyone to read, or handed out on a note card, so in order for you to be a part of the long term community you have to adhere to this rules or be banned.

This is in theory how most groups work, unless the group owner wishes to bend the rules for his own convenience and play the diva role on everyone he has the misfortune of talking into joining the group –Make Him Over for example, but that’s a subject for another article-, apparently once you hit the 800 members mark on your group and even people you don’t know, know who you are, this entitles you to hold the absolute truth and never be wrong.

I was until very recently -i.e. last night- an active member of GayMeeting Point, a somewhat public group for club owners, hosts and the general public to join and announce various events happening in-world. I had since day one problems with the group owner: Joaopedro Oh, who was very nice when asking me and my business to join his group, but that’s about the time it ended him being nice. I am the type of person that will DJ or work anywhere if I have fun and people want me there, but one of the first issues I encountered with this person was exactly him having an problem with me announcing a party at a straight / open to all club, to which he added “a party with a room full of sluts“.

Then it continued on with group chat issues and so on, rules not openly stated anywhere but only mentioned when it was convenient for him or when something brushed him off the wrong way -which was me apparently-, then after seeing a few other non club venues being announced -shop freebies, art galleries and so on- I decided to send a notice about my family’s shopping area, I mean they were announcing shop freebies -it being done by Joao himself-, so I figured people would like to be informed.

In a nutshell, I was threatened to be banned after him adding: “I am 5 years old in SL and you DJ for work, you should listen to people with more experience“, pretty strong words for a person running a party group; so DJs and club owners don’t know better than you. I don’t go for how long you have been in second life, or what you do for a living while in-world, I rather pay attention to your talents, but hey that’s just me.

I’ll be partying on my own now, there are some things I rather do without and stroking someone’s online ego is certainly one of those. I’m not being difficult or pretend that I hold the absolute truth, but double standards are always bad, no matter under what situation you use them.

La censura es por simple definición, el acto de filtrar información que se ofrece al publico por un número de razones, ya sea violación del copyright, contenido adulto ó simple protocolo. La censura está presente en nuestro día a día, incluso nos auto censuramos y lo llamamos ser educados.

En el second life puedes ser censurado de varias formas, pero al ser esta una plataforma social basada en la comunicación de texto/voz, la censura puede ser compleja. La mayoría de las veces esta ocurre en grupos, los cuales se esfuerzan de mantener el exceso de notificaciones masivas al minimo, o por lo menos en el mismo tema del grupo; cuando te unes a un grupo -en teoría- este viene con un número de reglas bastante claras, en un sitio a la vista de todos o entregados a tí en una nota, para garantizar que tu permanencia en la comunidad a largo plazo, lo que requiere que te adhieras a las reglas ó que te echen.

Así es como funcionan en teoría la mayoría de los grupos, a menos que el dueño del mismo decida doblar las reglas para su propia conveniencia y haciendo el papel de diva, abuse de todos aquello que hayan tenido la desgracia de unirse -Make Him Over, para nombrar a uno pero eso es tema para otro articulo-, aparentemente una vez que tienes 800 miembros en tu grupo esto te da licencia a ser dueño de la verdad absoluta y nunca estar equivocado.

Formé parte, hasta recientemente -es decir anoche- un miembro activo de GayMeeting Point, un grupo más o menos público para dueños de clubes, anfitriones y personas en general para ser informados de los eventos que ocurren en la plataforma. Tuve desde el primer día problemas con el dueño del grupo: Joaopedro Oh, que fué muy amable al pedir que mi negocio se uniese al grupo, pero fué justo después de hacerlo cuando lo de ser bueno paró. Soy el tipo de persona que asistirá y hará de DJ en cualquier club o fiesta, pero uno de los primero problemas que encontré fué cuando al encontrarme en un club heterosexual y mandar una notificación de la fiesta, este se presentó teniendo problemas con el mismo y añadiendo que se trataba de “una fiesta llena de mujerzuelas”.

Así que continué en mis andaduras y los problemas continuaron, chat grupal y así sucesivamente; al no haber reglas claras en ningún lado pero sólo siendo nombradas cuando algo le molestaba de manera personal -yo específicamente aparentemente- y al ver que varios negocios no centrados en las fiestas eran anunciados -regalos en tiendas, galerías de arte y así sucesivamente- decidí enviar una notificación sobre la zona de tiendas de mi familia, es decir ya que estaban anunciando regalos de una tienda específica -hecho esto por Joao en persona-, me imaginé que a la gente le gustaría ser informada sobre esto también.

Resumiendo, se me amenazó con ser expulsado del grupo después de añadir: “llevo 5 años en el second life y tú solo haces the DJ como profesión, deberías escuchar a alguien con experiencia”, palabras con mucho peso para una persona que lleva un grupo de fiestas; parece que los DJs y dueños de clubes no sabes más que él. A mi me da igual cuanto tiempo llevas en el second life, ó a que te dedicas como profesión en la plataforma, prefiero poner atención a tus talentos.

Me voy a dedicar a mis fiestas de ahora en adelante, ya que hay cosas que no voy a hacer y una de ellas es la de acariciar el ego de nadie. No estoy siendo difícil, ni creo tener la verdad absoluta, pero la doble moral es mala, da igual en que situación se use.

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This entry was posted on January 19, 2012 by in Deejay, Divas, DJS, groups, music, party, power, power trip, Second Life, SPIKE CLEMENCEAU.

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