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The four corners

Relationships, dating and any socializing that requires some investment on your part is like decorating a room, all people involved in this put a little of themselves in the decoration, making an harmonious whole; each corner of this room represents you past, your present and your future, all of which you share and expose for the sake of the room.

But there is a corner that is meant to be your personal space and which sometimes is neglected while focusing on the rest, or even sacrificed and given for the other person to use, but what happens if one day the whole room crumbles and falls apart and you have no corner to run to, because you forgot it was there or gave it away? where do you run for cover?

This happens a lot more often than people think when you get really invested in a long term relationship, it’s not a bad thing to share your future, your past and your present with the one you love, but giving everything you have while losing yourself and your personal space is wrong by concept.

Finding the right balance in sharing and keeping is where the key for a healthy, long-lasting relationship is. Sharing those things that you both have in common while keeping some areas to yourself create greater bonds than selfless self-sacrifice -like I’ve seen people in SL or RL do-, losing one’s identity, unable to act or think independently without you significant other; there’s a word for those types of relationships and that co-dependency.

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own” Benjamin Disrael

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Las relaciones, las citas y cualquier socialización que requiere una cierta inversión de su parte escomo la decoración de una habitación, todas las personas involucradas en esta ponen un poco de sí mismos en la decoración, haciendo un todo armonioso, cada rincón de esta habitación representa el pasado, su presente y su futuro, todos los cuales comparten y exponen por el bien de la habitación.

Pero hay un rincón que está destinado a ser su espacio personal y que a veces se descuida, mientras que te centras en el resto, o incluso sacrificas y das a la otra persona para usar, pero ¿qué pasa si un día todo el cuarto se desmorona y se cae a pedazos y usted no tiene una esquina a que correr,porque se le olvidó que estaba ahí o renunció a ella? ¿dónde corres a esconderte?

Esto sucede mucho más a menudode lo que la gente piensa cuando te vuelcas realmente en unarelación a largo plazo, no es es malo compartir tu futuro, tu pasado y tu presente con la persona que amas, pero dar todo lo que tienes mientras se pierde usted mismo y su espacio personal está mal por el concepto básico.

Encontrar el equilibrio adecuado en compartir y mantener es donde está la clave para una vida en pareja sana y duradera . Compartir las cosas que ambos tienen en común, manteniendo algunas áreas para sí mismo crear más vinculos que el desinteresado sacrificio -como he visto a gente en SLo RL hacer, perder la propia identidad, incapaz de actuar o pensar de manera independiente, sin tupareja, hay una palabra para ese tipo de relaciones y es la co-dependencia.


“El mayor bien que puedes hacer no es el de revelar tus riquezas, sino revelar las del otro” Benjamin Disrael

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